the inner brilliance blog
the inner brilliance blog
I’m in the business of transformation. That’s why my clients come to me, they want something different in their life. And whether we start talking about their carrier, relationship, or a wellness goal, inevitably the transformation they experience through our coaching extends to every aspect of their life.
For many, the word transformation can be really big and daunting. It evokes a visual like climbing Mount Everest, or a when a caterpillar becomes a butterfly. Those are definitely powerful examples of transformation, but is that the only way we experience change? Certainly for some, but not for all of my clients.
Transformation Has Many Forms
For some, transformation is about setting boundaries where there were none before. Or it can be leaning in to a situation that you would have shrunk away from in the past. Transformation can even be creating space for yourself where there was never any, or taking up space when you need to. As Pablo Yeung says transformation can be “taking the best parts of you and giving them more room in your life.” Whatever allows you to embrace who you really are, deep down inside, in a more meaningful and connected way is automatically transformative.
So what part of you needs more space?
Where do you want to lean in or stand up? Where do you want to feel transformation? I would love to hear your thoughts! And if these questions inspire you, and you want help finding the answers, let’s connect and find your transformation.
The Closeted Perfectionist
Have you ever had that experience where it feels like the universe is trying to beat you over the head with something? Yeah, I’ve had a few of those in my life, and the last week or so has been no different. Apparently I’m a little slow on the up-take and need constant reinforcement. This weeks universal lesson was about letting go of that little nasty little gremlin called Perfectionism. If you’d called me a perfectionist a week ago I would have laughed my guts out! I’m usually operating somewhere between slightly organized chaos and a complete nervous breakdown, but apparently there’s a perfectionist hiding deep down inside...who knew?
It took me over a week, and a session with my own coach, to realize that I’ve been beating myself up for not being a “perfect” coach for my clients. The crazy part is, there’s no such thing as a perfect coach!!! Coaching is a messy and often uncomfortable process because it’s real, and raw, and deeply personal. As a coach if you’re aiming for perfect that means you’re not getting into the mess with your client, and you’re definitely not being authentic. That’s the opposite of the coach that I want to be!
Courage, Compassion and Connection
I’m a really big fan of Brene Brown, and in particular her book The Gifts of Imperfection. In the book she writes, “It is in the process of embracing our imperfections that we find our truest gifts: courage, compassion, and connection.” I really thought about those three words...courage, compassion and connection and how they apply to me. What I discovered is that I need to have courage in order to embrace my imperfection, compassion for myself when I do make a mistake (and that’s going to happen a lot!) and a connection with the inherent imperfection of all my clients who are just like me. Wow! What a blinding flash of the obvious. No wonder the universe kept giving me shots, this is good stuff!
If this little “kick in the pants” lesson from the universe sounds familiar, and you’re a perfectionist like me (that’s so weird to say out loud) let’s connect and find your gifts of courage, compassion and connection. The universe will love you for it!
I was watching the movie Jumaji 2 this weekend with my family. Staring both Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson and Kevin Hart both in the movie we knew it would be a funny one, and it didn’t disappoint!
In the movie, the 3 teenage characters get sucked into a real-life video game and have to play to win in order to get out. They very quickly discover that they each have a tattoo on their forearm, with 3 solid black bars, representing their lives in the game. Each time they “die” they are immediately brought back to life, and one of the bars on their arm disappears.
Of course, as they near the end of the movie they each find they only have one of their life bars left, which is a scary proposition. Lose that last bar and it’s GAME OVER! One of the characters has been stuck inside the movie for 20 years, paralyzed by the fear of losing his last life. He finds himself existing, but not actually getting anywhere, let alone back to reality. These 4 people must now work together, and combine their talents, to win the final level and get back to reality.
It occurred to me, this funny, family movie has a great point. We all only have one life! We play the game everyday knowing that there are no take-backs and no tradesies. There are often no second chances. Not everything we do ends in a big, flashing GAME OVER, and a “waa, waaaaa” sounds like at the end of video game, but today’s choices definitely impact what life looks like tomorrow. Even when we make a choice to do nothing, paralyzed by fear and our negative inner critic, we are still choosing, but not actually living.
At the end of the movie, the teen characters work together to take one final, calculated risk so that they can end the game on their terms and return to their modern lives. So, when you think about how you live today, are you someone who doesn’t want to take that risk to save that one life-bar you have? Are you trapped in the game just desperate to get out?
Sometimes to take those big risks in our lives we need help. We need someone who can help us challenge our assumptions, embrace the risks, and encourage us to take that leap. A coach is just the person to help you do all of those things that will get you back in the game and use the "life bars" you have left so you get the most out of the adventure!
Lindsay is the owner and principal coach at High Voltage Coaching. She loves to tell personal stories and share content that inspires others and creates conversation.