the inner brilliance blog
There is something extra special about a 21st birthday. It really is the threshold to true adulthood. No longer are there any restrictions, guidelines, regulations or reservations. The transition to grownup is complete! And as my oldest daughter makes that final transition today I’ve been feeling very thoughtful, particularly because at the age of twenty-one I became her mom. Isn’t there a beautiful symmetry in that??
So my darling Lexi, on your 21st birthday, I have a few thoughts to offer you….
First, know that you, my darling, are my greatest achievement. Creating a person that is as kind, thoughtful, smart, funny and big-hearted as you are is and will always be, my most amazing contribution to this world.
Second, know that you are unconditionally loved. I have tears rolling down my face as I write this because my love for you is so overwhelming. No matter how old you are that will never change.
Third, know that I expect greatness from you. And I don’t mean I expect you to find the cure for cancer, or climb Mount Everest, but I do expect you to give the world your best every day. And if some days your best is just smiling at a stranger at the coffee shop that’s just perfect.
Fourth, know that you are enough. Just as you are, right this minute. You are perfect and precious and valuable and amazing.
Fifth, know that you are strong. You have already conquered more in your 21 years on this earth than many will in a lifetime, and yet there are more challenges to come. It doesn’t matter what life throws at you, you can shoulder the burden.
Sixth, know that you are resilient. There is nothing that you cannot rise from. You were born feisty and sassy, and come from a long line of women that never knew when to quit. That resilience is in you whenever you need it.
So, my darling daughter, I hope that these gifts stay with you far beyond your 21st birthday. I hope that they resonate within you for decades to come. I hope that even in those moments you don’t feel them in yourself that you can read these words and connect with their truth. And most of all, I hope that you feel and know the depth of my love for you. Happy 21st birthday.
Hello my friends! Welcome to another Manic Monday!
You've probably noticed that my post today is a bit later in the morning, and there's a good reason for that. Today the whole family had an opportunity to do something that we very rarely get to do...SLEEP IN ON A WEEKDAY!!!! This is almost unheard of for us, but after a weekend that had us up at the crack of dawn, it was a well deserved treat.
It is especially important for us, as a busy, working, career woman that we take advantage of these moments. Making ourselves the priority is hard, but we can't be any good in any of our other relationships if we do not treat ourselves with love, kindness and empathy. If you are struggling to make yourself a priority, to fill your own cup, let's connect and uncover what's getting in your way so you can make yourself a priority again.
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Hi everyone! Thanks for joining me in this evening edition of Manic Monday. I usually like to post my Manic Monday anecdotes early on Monday mornings so they offer a bit of inspiration, or at least a laugh to get the week started. But today’s Manic Monday is coming to you a little later as someone I loved needed my help this morning. And in true Manic Monday style, that meant that the days agenda needed to change. Spending some extra time with a loved-one who needed me this morning, reinforced a valuable lesson that I wanted to share with you. I think it’s actually really applicable to Manic Monday’s as this is often a time when we feel anxious, overwhelmed, defeated and alone. In slowing down and spending the time needed this morning, with my loved-one, I realized that there’s a few important steps we can take when we feel like the world is crashing down on us and we just can’t take it anymore.
Just Say It
I need help. These three little words carry with them a thousand pounds of weight. Saying “I need help” might just be the hardest thing to do when you feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world. I know, because I’ve been there. We think we can handle it. We think we can push through it. Truth is, we don’t actually have to. Asking someone you trust and love, just like I was asked this morning, is the most important first step. You don’t even need to say “help”. You can say “I need a hug” or “Will you hold my hand?” or “I need a moment.” Any of those phrases will do.
Seriously. Just take three deep breaths, right into your belly and then exhale. Do three more if you need to. Just give your body a little oxygen, and a little time, and trust me, you’ll feel a little calm start to creep in.
Just focus on what is happening right in that very second. It’s called being present. So often we live our lives completely in the future, worrying so much about the 100 things on our to-do list, and the 800 emails in our inbox, and we don’t worry about what’s happening right now. Just stop and just BE!!
What's Important Right Now
The very last thing to do, once you have you anxiety a little bit under control, is to think about what is the one thing you need to do, right now. You’ll have to be careful, because the 1000 things on your list will try to creep back in, but stay with it. What’s the 1 thing you NEED to do right now? I have a feeling it has nothing to do with returning and email or cleaning a bathroom. Here’s a hint, it lIkely it has something to do with your own health and mental wellness. Do you NEED to just keep breathing? Or maybe you NEED to get outside and take a walk? Could it be possible that you NEED to call your best friend and have a good cry? I’ll wager I’m pretty close with these suggestions. It doesn’t have to be something big, actually the smaller the better. Just trust you gut, do what you NEED to do and everything else can wait.
And if you can’t figure out what you NEED in the moment, it’s ok to do a rinse and repeat with the breathing and the being. Truth be told you’re likely feeling the anxiety because you don’t do enough breathing and being, so an extra 5 minutes of quiet calm and extra O2 is what you need. Just stay right there with it and the right next step will come to you.
In the end, what you may need, and what my loved-one needed this morning, was some time, some love, and the presence of someone they deeply trusted. I was honoured to be that trusted person this morning, who could support the being and the breathing until my loved-one was ready to connect with the one thing they needed. I’ve been that person in need in the not to distant past (JU) and I’m so glad that I could pay it forward this morning. I hope this little Manic Monday post helps you to ask for help, find a little calm, or provide some support for someone who needs you, when they feel like the sky is falling. And most of all I hope you have a great week. 💖
Lindsay is the owner and principal coach at High Voltage Coaching. She loves to tell personal stories and share content that inspires others and creates conversation.